Why your resolutions may not be working...and what you can do instead

  January brings a great energy and a time for new beginnings. Even though I think that personal growth and new beginnings can happen any day, ANY time of year, we often want to put the previous year behind and they start to reflect about what we really want to the next year to look like. It’s a time to have a renewed focus on ourselves, which can be very exciting.

 

Of course we hear so many people talking about resolutions at the beginning of the year -- and at the same time I’ve heard people joke about how they don’t even remember last year’s resolutions. We’ve all heard that the gyms start to get less crowded a few weeks into the New Year.

 

Although we can have the best intentions when making resolutions, sometimes it doesn’t take long to fall right back into our old ways.

 

So why is it so common for people to not keep their own resolutions?

 

Let's start at the beginning. Even the word “resolution” can feel heavy to some people. It can bring such a sense of pressure because it's something people feel they have to do each year. And when we don't reach them, we feel guilt. And we beat ourselves up. This does not nourish our souls!

 

If you would indeed like to make some changes (although there is no rule book that says you HAVE to on January 1), here's what you can do to start. Write a list of your "resolutions" and notice how your body feels when you’re writing them. Energized or drained? Expanded or contracted? Pay close attention and be honest with yourself. Give yourself permission to cross out or modify the ones that feel draining to you. Behavior change is just as much about INNER WORK as well as the outer work.

 

When something doesn't go as planned, you can remind yourself that behavior change can be a PROCESS. We are indeed creatures of habit. Since there are several stages of behavior change, starting small is best. BABY STEPS, one step at a time. If we want to run 10 miles and we’re not doing much physical activity at all now, we’re not going to wake up tomorrow running 10 miles. Sometimes we forget to plan for smaller goals. Even starting to wake up earlier, or putting on your running shoes in the morning can be a step. Once you have that down pat, the results can motivate you to continue to move forward.

 

Also, sometimes resolutions are vague and people make half-assed (sorry) commitments. It's okay to put yourself first - you are certainly worthy of committing to your personal development. It takes a DECISION in addition to getting CLEAR on your intentions and vision.

 

So what is YOUR vision? Go ahead and envision the ideal. What is it that you really want in the first place? Getting clear on your intentions is crucial to allow any goal to come to fruition. Think about your desired outcome and how you’d feel after accomplishing the goal. (Really feel it.) Write this down. This can be powerful in itself.

 

How do you want to feel a year from now? What can you do now to start to get there? You could start with a 3-month goal, and even break down action steps from there. Pretend it’s December and look back at the year. What would you want to have happened? That way you set yourself up for success now.

 

Once you make the decision and set the intention, PRIORITIZE. If you really want something and if it's really important to you, make it happen without blaming circumstances or other people. Tell someone (or multiple people) if you want accountability. Invest in a coach or other professional. When it comes to changing habits and doing something different (often out of our comfort zones), our subconscious minds want to come up with all kinds of excuses. Be aware of it and tell the ego to take a hike.

 

Another reason for the lack of follow-through is sometimes we set resolutions on what we think we “should” do instead of something we truly WANT to do deep down. We're more likely to reach a goal if it’s something that we are really excited about. So stop with the SHOULDING.

 

Goals / intentions / resolutions (whatever word resonates) will ideally be meaningful TO YOU in order for them to work well. Goals you find meaningful, interesting and personally important are ideal for personal growth. People who flourish in life feel a sense of purpose. Only you know what your values. You'll feel more authentic if your resolutions are truly in alignment with your highest self. When you're self-aware, you’ll be better able to align your energy with the goals while you’re taking action.

 

As cliché as it sounds, it does help to enjoy the journey so that it's not just about the temporary relief  you feel when you reach the goal.  Sure, although we want to feel great when we meet the goal, we also want to have a sense of purpose WHILE reaching the goal. That way it's not, “I’ll be happy when….” or “if ____ happens, then I’ll be happy.” Also, if your goals are meaningful, you won't be basing your happiness on external things.

 

There’s also a greater chance of reaching that goal if comes from a positive place within, not from a place of fear.

 

And here's a bonus for you if you have a goal that you’re REALLY excited about! Research has shown that activities you truly enjoy doing – ones that really make you light up - can bring on a “natural high.” Natural highs decrease stress and stimulate chemicals (neurotransmitters) in the brain. There are actually biological effects when you enjoy the process AND the outcome. How awesome that this can all be tied to your overall well-being too, right?

 

I also want to point out that goals can change, and that’s okay. You can still be working on your goals and taking inspired action no matter what. (Don't wait just in case you change your mind.)

 

Most of all, ALLOW. Take a deep breath, surrender, and just ALLOW. You don’t have to force it or make it more complex than it needs to be. Take a step back. Be kind to yourself. Align your action with your desires and you’ll be sure to get in the flow.

 

So what works for you? Have you successfully followed through with resolutions? Please share below!

 

What language do you speak?

   

As I've previously shared, one “a-ha” moment that I had several years ago was the notion that what you focus on expands. This also applies to language we use and words we speak.

 

Do you speak a language of positivity or negativity? My guess is a little of both or somewhere in the middle along the spectrum. Bilingual perhaps? :)

 

When we first become mindful of our thoughts and language, it is easier to make some positive changes.

 

When we constantly complain or merely focus on what we perceive to be “wrong” in our lives, we will continue to see those things and attract the same.

 

This also goes with what we post on social media. What are we placing our energy on?

 

If you say things like “I’m so broke / unlucky / lonely ” (fill in the blank) it’s like you’re taking this on as a permanent label - a label that cannot be changed.

 

Psychologist Martin Seligman calls this type of thinking as “permanent pervasive,” which leans towards pessimism. These thoughts indicate we believe that this is how things are and we can’t change them. On a similar note, sociologist Corey Keyes found that “flourishers” have an “I can change” mindset.

 

Interestingly, Spanish even has its own differentiation of verb usage. For example, there is kind of a temporary “is” and a permanent “is.”  (Personal side note and fun fact that you may not know: I have a BA in Spanish. :))

 

I know the statement above may be a harsh example (it didn’t even feel good to type it!), although I know there are negative tapes that sometimes play in our minds, and we give these limiting beliefs so much more power when we VERBALIZE them.

 

Labeling yourself can also bring on such as sense of shame.

 

Ultimately, we are asking the universe for what we believe. “And so it is.”

 

Be mindful of when you gossip. Surround yourself with positive people who are secure enough in themselves not to talk about others or put others down in order to feel better about themselves. Not to mention the law of karma…what we put out there comes right back to us.

 

If you have not yet read Don Miguel Ruiz’ The Four Agreements, do yourself a favor and do so. One of his “agreements” for life is to “be impeccable with your word.” This (along with the others) can be powerful and life changing.

 

So what are you focusing on with your language? On what circumstances do you place your energies?

 

Be mindful that there is always a ripple effect.

 

What have your experiences been in this area of being mindful of the language you use? Be sure to share them by posting a comment below. Your story can help others as well!

Are you stressed at work? Try these helpful tips to manage it well - PART 3 of 3

 How’s it going?

I’ve really enjoyed hearing from folks who have been implementing some of the tips to reduce work stress!

I hear about work stress so often that I felt the need to do my part to help squash this epidemic (yes, I said epidemic!). :) So many people are working so much - and under high pressure - that their results are leading to feeling super drained after work, which runs into the quality of your personal life.

As previously mentioned, the high level of stress occurring CHRONICALLY causes wear and tear on our bodies and puts us at risk for illness. I review a ton of hospital medical records for my work at the Atlanta Regional Commission and the adverse health effects resulting from behavior, lifestyle and chronic stress are astounding. The prevalence of heart disease and hypertension (among other conditions) is though the roof. I don’t want this to be fear-based post or focus on that; what I would like to focus on is prevention and what we can do for ourselves to improve our overall well-being. With anything, we can make the decision to be responsible for ourselves and make healthy choices. That being said, here are a few more tips to reduce work stress:

~ Focus on what is going WELL and what you are grateful for. There are a lot of positives, and they will become apparent if you choose to look for them. When you find yourself down about your work, creating a list of these items will help you shift your perspective.

~ Honor your energy. Schedule the tasks that you feel take more focus and concentration during the times of the day when you feel you have the most energy. Schedule the lighter tasks during times when you generally feel less energetic. (As mentioned in other posts, of course do what you can to get to any root cause for low energy, too :). There is no need to fight or resist what you&rsquo ;re feeling as that can lead to feeling more drained and frustrated. You’ll find yourself more productive when you honor how your body feels.

~ Focus on one thing at a time. Yup, I know this is a tough one and I know that we’re always juggling multiple tasks. Give it a shot if you don’t do this already: block out a time for email only instead of responding to every email all day long as they come in. When you’re working on a project that requires focus, close all other windows if you’re working on a computer. I find that I’m more productive this way. Set a timer on your phone or computer and make an effort to focus in order to complete your project during that set period of time.

Final note: Be sure to take care of yourself outside of work and remember that you teach people how to treat you. If you answer a work email that arrives at 10pm - unless you’re on call or it’s absolutely necessary for your job - then people will come to expect that from you. You don’t have to put other people’s priorities before yours or your well-being. The email can usually wait for a response until the next day. So I chose the tips from this series from a bigger list I created as I feel they are some of the most effective.

What other mechanisms do you have in place for self-care in the workplace? Please share your ideas by commenting below!

Want personalized support with this or other areas of your life? I'm here to HELP you! All you have to do is hit the contact link above to say hello and we'll set up a get acquainted call. :)

Are you stressed at work? Three (more) helpful tips to manage it well - PART 2

Walk outside for a work break
Walk outside for a work break

As promised, I’m following through on my “stress at work” series with a few more tips. I’m making this short and concise because I know you’re busy and again so you can have time to implement!

As one of the main concerns that I hear on a daily basis is feeling stress at work, whether the location is an office environment, at home or elsewhere. Given that most people have their plates full and seem to work long hours, self-care is especially critical for your health and well-being. The following are three more ways to decrease your stress level at work:

  • Let go of what you cannot control. Remember that you have control over your own actions and behavior. You do not have control over other forces or over others’ behavior. And how other people react to you is their reality. Do your best to excel at what you can control and make a decision to let go of everything else.
  • Get physical, especially if you work a desk job. Take short walks. Stretch. Get some fresh air. Research (and implement) desk yoga poses and stretches you can do. Making a conscious effort to do this will do get the oxygen flowing to your brain and also wonders for your mind, body and soul.
  • Create uplifting self-care rituals throughout the day. Treat yourself to your favorite hot tea and use peppermint essential oil for a boost in focus and concentration. Some people listen to their favorite music. Make a list of “mood boosters” that you can pull out at any given moment at work so you have them handy when you feel you could use them.

Sometimes we forget about self-care and get in the same routines every day. When you make a conscious effort to decrease your stress level, you health and well-being will thank you!

Please feel free to share insights and next steps below!

Are you stressed at work? 3 helpful tips to manage it well - PART 1

   

To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life. ~ Jill Bolte Taylor

 

One of the main concerns that clients come to me with is being stressed out at work.

 

When we continually over-extend ourselves, it can lead to physical and mental exhaustion. We are expected to do more with less. When we sacrifice our own well-being, it creates a ripple effect that can lead to illness and compromised relationships with others.

 

I’ve compiled a list of tips to help with work stress. This is the first part of a series of three which I’m providing as a gift to you.

 

I’m breaking up the tips into a series for several reasons. We tend to have short attention spans these days and I know you’re busy. (It’s all about prioritizing though. :)) Another reason is so that you can have time to implement the ideas.

 

Note: Many of my clients, readers and followers do not work traditional 9 – 5 (or sometimes more like 7-7) jobs. The tips still apply, just tweak as you see fit!

 

take a break1. TAKE BREAKS. Ok, it's in all caps because this is an important one. For some reason we have become a culture of eating lunch at our desks, or not eating lunch at all. Honor yourself and take a lunch break and / or smaller breaks through out the day. Schedule them in. Use a timer as a reminder to stop and breathe.

 

2. Remember what’s really important to you. Think of your values. Do you feel you constantly put work before your own life? Sit down and create a list of ways you can make changes, for example, committing to leaving work on time in order to honor your values.

 

3. Get to the root cause. I’m a big advocate for preventing stress, not just coping and managing. Do what you can to explore the root of what’s causing you stress and brainstorm solutions. Do you need to get to bed earlier to prevent irritability and sluggishness? Can you delegate? What are ways you can be more efficient? Could you utilize better communication when it comes to your needs?

 

I love to hear from you!  Please be sure to comment blow to share your insights and self-care plan.

 

decisions, decisions, decisions

   

"The human heart has hidden treasures…" ~Charlotte Bronte

 

If you’ve been following me for a while, you may know that a big part of my message is to be mindful of when you make a decision because you think (or someone else or society thinks) you “should.”

 

I struggled with this myself for a while in so many areas of my life.

 

There was a tennis match between my head and my heart. Looking back, I don’t think I always listened to my gut or my instincts.

 

What I learned is to make a conscious effort to follow my heart and trust myself.

 

We’ve all had the feeling at some point when something isn’t “quite right.” Well guess what? Our heart and inner voice always knows what’s right for us.

 

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people do something because they “should,” ultimately to realize or learn that the next time they will listen to – and trust – their own feelings and intuition.

 

Sometimes we tend to over-think things when we just need to sit still and listen to ourselves, God and the Universe giving us a nudge, even when it’s something that causes some fear to arise.

 

Can you think of a time in your life when something just didn’t feel right but you did it because you “should” or because you wanted to please someone else?

 

When something doesn’t feel right, trust the feeling. Again, I’m not talking about fear; I’m talking about when every cell in your body is resisting. Or you have that feeling in your gut. Just know there’s a difference between the universe giving you the nudge and not wanting to follow through out of fear. Some of the things we are being led to do may scare us…and that often means we need to do them. :)

 

Sometimes we feel the need to ask the opinion of everyone we know when we’re faced with a decision. This can confuse us even more because if we ask 10 people we will likely get a mixed bag of answers. And often people will tell us what THEY want.

 

When we stop resisting our feelings and start trusting ourselves more, we feel more in alignment with our truth, beliefs and values. Our actions will be more congruent with the highest good, and ultimately it feels like a weight is lifted. A sense of inner peace is what we’re going for, which can lead to a happier, healthier life.

 

Of course there will be things we do that we don’t enjoy, and I’m also not saying that you don’t need to plan strategically.

 

There will always be something we could do for our own growth.

 

It helps tremendously to meditate, pray / ask for guidance, and allow yourself to be still. When we listen to our “still small voice within” we will be lead down the right path.

 

Practice with small, everyday decisions. After all, it’s the smaller, consistent steps that lead to larger outcomes. Ultimately, there’s no wrong answer because we learn and grow from every experience no matter what. You’ll feel much lighter trusting yourself though.

 

And ultimately, we just KNOW. All the answers are within.

 

Be sure to share your insights and you next steps below. Specifically, I’d love to know in what ways you’re committing to listening to the voice within!

interview with nancie vito, life coach

A university student in graduate school recently contacted me (well, two actually contacted me and I had to go with the first!).  She noted that she is taking a coaching training class and one of her assignments is to interview certified life coaches regarding the journey to become a life coach and various similar topics related to coaching.  I was thrilled to know that she was excited to learn about coaching, the processes involved and the benefits that clients receive. The last two questions may be especially interesting for those who have ever wondered what it would be like to have your own coach. The grad student has given me permission to share our interview on blog. Thank you, E!

As I share this info, please feel free to contact me with any questions using the contact form above.  Please share any comments or insights below as well. Specifically, I'd love to know:  If you had a life coach, what is the number one topic that you feel would be a priority in order to address and bring about positive changes in your life?


Interview

 

  • What led you to become a coach and or why did you select this specific field?

 

I worked in mental health and public health for many years. After being in a system that focused so much on what is wrong and sometimes merely treating symptoms, I decided to focus on prevention and helping people to move forward in order to truly FLOURISH in their lives. There are a lot of people who may not exactly need mental health treatment but instead may be not living to their full potential or living with purpose. Sometimes they may feel they are coasting through life or may feel like work has overtaken their lives. My clients learn to create a life that they love and feel great about. Of course, there is a time and a place for healing and mental health treatment, and the topic is something I am still passionate about. My focus in my practice with clients is positive mental health, happiness and overall well-being.

 

  • What coaching training have you received? (certifications or continued education)

 

Just a few months after earning a Master’s degree, I enrolled in a certification program that is accredited by the International Coach Federation (ICF). After completing the general coaching program, I went on to take further courses in group coaching, wellness coaching, and other programs. I’ve also received training on stress reduction and positive psychology, in addition to a host of other courses and seminars on personal growth and development. I am a lifelong learner, which I believe ultimately benefits my clients. I also received training years ago in several evidence-based programs that utilize goal setting and coaching techniques.

 

  • What is your experience in coaching? (mostly in corporations or individual clients)

 

For my practice, I primarily work with individual clients (usually twenty and thirty-somethings). I also used to hold a part-time position with an agency in which I served as what is called a “care transitions coach.” Furthermore, I occasionally hold workshops in a group format and am currently leading a course called “Flourishing 101” at Emory Continuing Education.

 

  • What would you say your style of coaching is?

 

I use a lot of open-ended questions. The underlying idea is that we all know what is best for ourselves. We all have our own answers, and sometimes we need to learn to trust ourselves.  Clients usually work on a combination of personal and professional goals. I believe everything is connected. I take a holistic approach (looking at the whole person), because in order to truly flourish it is ideal to focus on mind, body and spirit.

 

  • In your personal opinion, what is the most intriguing/ exciting aspect of coaching?

 

It is really exciting for me to see transformation, breakthroughs and growth. Clients make positive changes in their lives and sometimes feel a sense of reinvention. I’ve seen people take steps to start their own businesses, decrease anxiety, increase confidence and assertiveness, gain a greater sense of balance, excel in school, develop healthy habits, gain clarity on decisions or their vision in life, take massive action, add joy in their lives, and most of all get out of their own way. Someone may come to me stuck, overwhelmed or confused, and ultimately learn the tools they need to reduce stress, gain clarity and live an extraordinary life. Sometimes people come to me already knowing what they want in life, and they benefit from the encouragement to STRETCH themselves and push through the fear of getting out of their comfort zone. When we make a conscious effort to choose happiness, there is a ripple effect that spreads joy and positivity to others.

 

 

  • Also, what do you think the most important aspect of coaching is? What do you try to provide for your clients?

 

I think it is important for clients to recognize their unique strengths, passions and interests, and to do whatever it is that makes them light up. It is not about what I think they should do, what someone else thinks they should do, or what society implies. Many people start to live a life because they think they should or what society dictates and end up miserable. It is important to follow your heart, your intuition and your gut. I provide an open, nonjudgmental space so that clients can feel comfortable sharing.

 

Please share any comments or insights below as well. Specifically, I'd love to know:  If you worked with a life coach, what is the number one topic that you feel would be a priority in order to make positive changes in your life?

 

FLOW states enhance your happiness and well-being

In my flourishing workshops and courses on happiness, I almost always cover the concept of FLOW.

It is a fact that people who have a high level of happiness and well-being experience FLOW on a regular basis.

Artist Painting

So what do I mean by this?  Basically, flow occurs when we are highly focused and engaged in an activity. It transpires when time seems to stand still because we are fully absorbed with what we are doing. It also happens when our greatest strengths and talents are in use in order to solve a challenge. The concept of “flow” is often featured as it relates to creativity.

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a psychologist who has conducted numerous studies on flow, has noted that the primary elements of a flow state include:

  • Intense focus and concentration
  • A loss of self-consciousness
  • A sense that one will be able to handle and respond to whatever occurs next
  • A sense that time has passed more quickly or slowly than normal; and
  • A belief that the experience is rewarding, regardless of the outcome

Csikszentmihalyi suggests that flow can occur in everyday life, particularly if we are clear on the goal first and if we are using our natural abilities. It can also deter anxiety and boredom. Some people engage in hobbies to experience the state of flow. Flow also occurs quite a bit at work (more often than not!). And even though flow is more often experienced in the workplace, people are more motivated with leisure activities over work. (Hmmmmm…)

Flow is similar to what athletes call being “in the zone.” The flow and the enjoyment does not come necessarily with what the activity is, but more in how it is done.

Note! Since flow occurs when we are using our strengths to solve a challenge, if the challenge at hand exceeds our perceived capabilities, we can become anxious. A balance must also exist in that if we're engaged in a “harmonious passion,” we are more likely to experience flow and well-being; however, if the passion is an “obsession,” we are less likely to experience flow.

I encourage you to determine what type of activities get you to experience a flow state. Then you can consciously choose to participate in activities that incorporate flow in order to boost their overall well-being. As flow continues to be focused on a larger scale, the overall well-being of individuals of all ages will continue to flourish to give a sense of hope, decrease stress and enhance wellness!

Guided imagery and healing = an excellent form of self-care

Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. – Lucille Ball

Guided imagery and healing = an excellent form of self-care

By Nancie Vito, MPH, CHES

My clients often ask me for guidance on relaxation and stress reduction techniques, and I wanted to share one with you that has been in my toolbox for several years, since my days of leading workshops for people with chronic health conditions. Participants would absolutely love being "walked" through a peaceful country garden, for example.

Guided imagery is one of many different types of relaxation techniques that can produce a relaxation response. All relaxation techniques have a common goal: to produce physiological changes in the body order to lower blood pressure, decrease pain and reduce effects of stress or illness. Basically, with guided imagery, individuals visualize pleasant images in their mind in order to replace negative, stressful or unwanted thoughts and feelings. This process and “reprogramming” of the subconscious mind often results in an overall sense of calm. Imagery combines all senses, not only “seeing” or creating images in the mind, but truly feeling, smelling, etc. When we create images that we find pleasant in our “mind’s eye,” the process can also be meditative in nature since it goes deeper than the level of consciousness in which we operate in our daily activities. Memory is one example of a form of imagery. Dreams are also a good example of images being created in the mind, as the subconscious and unconscious are communicating with our conscious mind. (A main difference with guided imagery is that individuals are purposefully and consciously creating desired behaviors or situations in their mind.)

Individuals can learn guided imagery a self-directed exercise, with a “live” facilitator, or by using CDs, DVDs, MP3s, phone applications, and online programs. Fortunately, guided imagery is much more accessible in recent years that it once was.

Research has come a long way in developing evidence for the effects of guided imagery as in last few decades, as thousands of studies have shown guided imagery to have positive effects on cancer, depression, anxiety, pain, asthma, PTSD, chronic tension-type headaches, addictive behaviors, menopausal symptoms, and host of other conditions. It has been shown strengthen the immune system and even have positive effects on pregnancy. Some hospitals are starting to use it to help patients relax before surgery.

So here’s the deal: guided imagery can be beneficial for just about anyone and any situation where positive outcomes are desired. The bottom line of how it works? It helps to decrease stress as you can turn your focus towards something that is pleasing to you.

Some people use imagery to help make a personal goal a reality. This is also super duper helpful, for example, before public speaking. Really FEEL how you want to feel upon reaching the goal. The key to visualizing the desired outcome of a goal is to be sure to take action along with it. :)

SO…for positive outcomes for your health and overall well-being, this week why not check out some of the tools out there that are available to us online or via apps? Let me know how it goes by posting your insights below! I love to hear from my dear readers.

What do Cirque du Soleil and LIFE have in common?

My Lessons from Cirque

Thought for today:  "If you do not get chills when you set a goal, you're not setting big enough goals."  ~Bob Proctor

Have you ever seen a Cirque du Soleil show?  I love music, performance and dance, so it makes sense that I have enjoyed the couple of Cirque shows that I have been to.

After attending my first show, I found it to be totally inspiring and I ended up thinking about what Cirque du Soleil and LIFE have in common.  

Here are a few of the life lessons I found in Cirque:  

1. These performers (and the creator of Cirque) take risks. 

The creator of Cirque du Soleil (which apparently started with a theatre troupe founded by Gilles Ste-Croix) obviously took a risk to step out into something unique. The performers take risks on a daily basis - on so many levels.

Seriously, how many people do you know who balance upside down on their foreheads on a pole dozens of feet up in the air?

If you think of your favorite peeps who inspire you, my bet is that many of them took risks to get where they are today. They are unique and they probably put themselves out there. Oprah. Steve Jobs. Madonna. Lady Gaga. Like them or not, they stepped way out into the unknown and ultimately benefited from doing so.

Do you think your favorite musicians, actors, thought leaders, or authors are where they are because they decided to stay comfortable?

I'm not saying that everyone is naturally wired to take risks or that you need to aim to be as big and famous as they are. Or even that they didn't have slip-ups or lessons learned along the way. However, if you are feeling really compelled to do something, or if you feel that tug from the Universe, it likely means it's what you're supposed to be doing.

And you know what, if you're feeling fear, it's still probably where you need to be. It's probably important for you and your soul's growth.

2. The performers push the limits to what most people would think is possible.     

This is a big one. Many of our (perceived) limitations are often SELF-IMPOSED, or imposed by others or society. What do you think is possible for yourself? Where did that belief come from?

These performers have likely put some of the "stuff" aside because they have to be pretty courageous to BELIEVE that they can do what they do. Sometimes this takes working on ourselves to get to the root of deep-seeded beliefs that live in our subconscious.

My experience was that the performers were doing things I'm not sure I would have ever dreamed would be humanly possible. Although these are physical acts, my guess is that it takes a ton of mental power and putting any fears aside to BELIEVE. Mind over matter at its best.

If you think you'll fall and are focused on that, you probably will. If you are focused and concentrating on where you want to go, you're chances of getting there are much greater.    

 What do YOU think is possible right now? Are holding yourself back?

What is your goal? Now double it. Triple it. Quadruple it. What feelings or emotions come to the surface? BELIEVE in and trust yourself, and know that the Universe and God will always provide what you need when you need it.

3. Other people benefit when you step into your power and share your gifts.

When you share your talents and gifts, your unique greatness shines and there is a ripple effect. So in the case of Cirque, if the team of people have not taken risks to show us their brilliance, there would be no shows or performances that bring a lotjoy to a larger population (think happiness, afternoons or evenings out, etc). Sure it's entertainment, and people love it.

So in a way, choosing not to share your gifts with the world is selfish. We all have gifts to share and there are people out there who need or want something that you have.

Are you an artist or creative whose work evokes joy and other positive feelings in others? An entrepreneur or aspiring entrepreneur who has ideas, products and services which can benefit others? A passionate person who could volunteer doing something meaningful? Are there other ways you could contribute to the world that you've thought about?

What have you said that you'd love to do "some day?"

I can help you make it a reality. If you want to get on your way to a happier, more fulfilled life, all you have to do to start is click the "contact" button up top and send me a note!

Peace & love,

Nancie