“What if it doesn’t work out” is a common fear that I often hear my clients express. They are taking risks, making changes and getting out of their comfort zones. And then fear surfaces, sometimes halting folks in their tracks.
Our subconscious loves to “protect” us by wanting us to stay in our comfort zones and keep us small. Taking a risk often brings that “what if” question.
Here’s a more empowering question for you that you can ask yourself:
What ELSE is possible?
While no one has a crystal ball, what we focus on makes a significant difference. Ok, so let’s say it doesn’t work out the way you’re expecting, hoping or envisioning. Sometimes the Universe has different plans for something bigger and better, and this could have been a stepping-stone, catalyst or lesson to learn first. Trust yourself and trust the process.
Many great things exist in this world because someone stepped out of their comfort zone. That’s where the magic happens.
If it doesn’t work out, in the end you know you would have given it a shot, yes? If you didn’t give it a shot, do you think you would regret it down the road?
While I don’t want to focus on regrets, I know a lot of people who beat themselves up for choices and decisions they’ve made in the past. As always, use compassion and kindness with yourself as we cannot change the past. We can only make decisions on what is current. We can always start again and all unfolds how it is supposed to.
So, you take a risk. What if it DOES work out? Try that on for size, and be open to the process. Some of the happiest people I know are not attached to outcome. They give something a go and are open to what comes along the way.
Ask yourself what your highest self would choose in any particular situation. When there is a part of you that is fearful, ask that part of you what it needs from you in order to move forward. You can journal about it free-style or talk through it. While there are multiple techniques you can use, the important thing is to acknowledge our fears of getting out of our comfort zones rather than ignoring them.
The truth is that any given moment, COURSE CORRECTION is available to us, as is going for it again if something doesn’t work out as we had hoped. Fall down seven, get up eight, right?
I recently stumbled upon this quote from Iyanla Vanzant which ties in to this perfectly:
Life gives you endless supply of do-overs.
Ah, that feels lighter to me. How about you? Please share your techniques that you find helpful when it comes to not letting the fear-based decisions take over your life!